What does you day look like? Is it hurried and bustled? Do you feel like you are burning the candle at both ends? Has the week, month or even ayear passed and you are left wondering where the time went and what you have to show for it?
I know I feel this way at times...If you have children, you probably do, too.
As Mom's we often get caught in the whirlwind of activities. From play-dates to soccer practice and all of the extras that seems so important. Before we know it we are sinking in the quicksand of our calendars and are desperately reaching for a branch so we can pull ourselves out.
A little revelation for you:
You OWN Your Calendar!
I know that may sound very basic to some of you, but to others...This is a light-bulb moment!
So many times we fill our calendars and our lives before we have taken the time to build the framework of our hearts and family. This is were the problem occurs.
Our God is a God of order. Just as he formed and filled the Earth, we too can form and fill our schedules and lives...without the sinking, drowning burned out feelings we created when we fill first. Look at the example God gave us in His word. From the very beginning, there was a framework...then the filling of it.
● Day One = God created light, formed heavens & earth ● Day Four = Filled wit sun, moon and stars ● Day Two = God separates water and sky ● Day Five = Filled wit fish and birds ● Day Three = Formed land and vegetation ● Day Six = Filled wit animals and man Genesis 1 **
Sally Clarkson challenges moms to examine what is Good, Better or Best...remembering that choosing what is Good can rob you and your family of what is Best. When you look at activities from that perspective...it really makes choosing easier.
Jeremiah 29:11-13 says
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you a hope and a future. Then shall ye call upon me, and ye shall go and pray unto me, and I will hearken unto you. And ye shall seek me, and find me, when ye shall search for me with all your heart.
Lay your busy-ness before the Lord and ask for His wisdom. He ALREADY knows the plan! How wonderful is that?! Not only that, but His plans are for a Hope and a Future! He never intended for His children to feel like they were spiraling out of control! In fact He tells us in His Word to
"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."
Matthew 6:33 tells us to
"seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you."
When we seek the Lord first...everything lines up. It doesn't mean we won't be busy. No. But we won't feel like we are drowning in the quicksand of too many commitments. We won't feel like we're "Missing It" as the Mom continually tells Peter in the movie Hook.
Now for a little practical application:
At Allume, Tricia Goyer challenged us to evaluate our week by writing down EVERYTHING we do in a week (including diaper changes and showers) then rate them 1-4.
- Everything you have to do: feeding the kids, homeschooling, getting dress, spend time with God.
- Things you should do: laundry and housecleaning, cook dinner, homework with kids
- Things you enjoy and are helpful: Bible study,exercise class, play dates, social media
- Things you do because you were afraid to say no, or because you wanted to look good or have you kids look good.
Now the fun part: CUT ALL the 4's and as many of the 3's as you can!
Now...OWN your calendar
Start fresh...buy a new one...erase the old one and ask yourself some tough questions: What Is important? What lines up with your framework?
Remember, When you seek Him first,
"God will empower you to achieve His purposes" ~Tricia Goyer, Allume, 2012
I pray you will redeem your time. I pray you will take back your calendars and in turn take back the Life that God has planned and carved out for you and your family.Be Intentional to Pursue God about the busy-ness in your life. He is faithful and will guide you to the place He has for you.
**A Tricia Goyer Presentation Slide