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5 Things You May Not Know About Intentional Gal

This is a guest post from Jason…Katie’s ‘hubby’ Next week, Katie and I celebrate the 20 year anniversary of our first date.  Olive Garden, a movie, shaved ice, and holding hands by the local pond (where I’d later propose to her).  Looking back, I didn’t realize the impact she would have on my life.

She’s amazing.

 

Love you forever!

Katie is smart…and genuine…and talented…and beautiful…and creative…and a great kisser (she probably won’t like me mentioning that last one…I’m debating even now whether to delete it or leave it in).

She’s also a great writer…and blogging has transformed her writing into ministry.

As husband, I get the unique opportunity to watch Katie write from this side of the keyboard – before her words mysteriously hyperspace into ‘virtual world’.

So, here are 5 quick ‘hubby’ observations that you may not know about Intentional Gal – observations from this side of the keyboard.

1.  Katie truly appreciates beauty.  She takes such joy in a sunset, a starry night, or a few fireflies.  These things inspire her.  And when she finds new beauty in the Word of God…it’s all the more powerful for her.

2.  Katie’s quiet time with her Lord and Savior is precious to her.  Katie knows that she has to be ‘filled up’ in order to share with others.  Often, she’s up at all hours to soak in His presence…rising ‘while it is still night.’

3.  Sharing online isn’t always easy for Katie…but it’s an act of obedience to God.  For months, Katie blogged without telling anyone she had a blog.  (I suspect a number of new bloggers do the same…I’m thankful for other bloggers and friends who have encouraged her along the way).

4.  Katie really is intentional.  It’s more than just a blog name or a Twitter handle.  She prayerfully considers priorities and then focuses her time and energy – on key items like her pursuit of God, strengthening our marriage, training our children, and serving others.

5.  Katie is both humbled and honored to know that you read her blog.  She gives all credit to Jesus.  I know, however, that it encourages her tremendously when you read, when you leave a comment, or when you share how her blog had an impact on you.  (Okay, maybe you knew this one...but I still wanted to share!)

Full disclosure - Katie doesn’t know I’m writing this blog…much less posting on her site.  She’s at the Allume conference learning how to be even more effective as a writer and blogger.

So, if you’re reading this sweetheart, I’m hoping I didn’t say anything that embarrassed you too much.

And for everyone else, I’m hoping I’ve shared a slightly different perspective…of my sweetheart, Intentional Gal.

 

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It never ceases to amaze me how, one minute I can be full of the Spirit...being kind and loving others, and the next...walking in impatience, frazzled, and moody! I know...you NEVER have one of those days, do you?! I am so thankful for a Godly husband who puts up with these outbursts.  I know he goes to the Father and prays for me...even when he has been the butt of my action!

The Lord want us to walk with Him moment by moment...every day.  How do I do that?????

Well...on days that my emotions or my will is out of control...I first have to recognize the problem is ME, not everything else around me that is getting on my nerves!  They can't help it that they are simply in the way of my getting my way! HaHa! When I do finally come around, I pray. Usually I realize that I didn't give the Lord first place.  I woke up running...not because I was late, but because my mind was running the list and spending time with Jesus was left off!  Again...never happens to you, right?!? I then have to humble myself and apologize to everyone who was in the wake of my selfishness and pride.

Intentional Living

The Bible says ""Come to Me, all who are weary and heavy-laden, and I will give you rest." Matthew 11:28.  Did you catch that?  He will give us REST! It goes on to say that His yolk is EASY and His burden is LIGHT!  WELL...that says A LOT!  If I am running around with my emotions telling me life is hard and no one helps, and my pride is damaged because I'm not getting my way, and I am TIRED and WORN OUT from all the busy-ness...WHO'S agenda am I fulfilling?????  MINE!  Not the Lord's!

"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light."  (Mat 11:28-30)

So, If you feel tired and worn out, Your emotions are running ramped remember that Jesus says that His ways are restful, light and not a burden.

Chase after God first then He can ordain your day, redeem your time and refresh your soul...even while you do laundry, run the car pool, pick up toys, show hospitality, make lunches, take phone calls, study for school, etc, etc, etc...

 

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Having the Trust of Your Husband: an update

Just a quick update on "My Wifely Pursuits" from the last post.  I have been laughing at my sweet husband's corniness!  I was given the opportunity to walk out my last  post less than 5 minutes after I posted! Actually it was more like...I shut the computer, walked outside and INSTANTLY had a sweet, silly, CORNEY comment thrown my way from my hubby AND my son!  HeeHee!  I PASSED! Since then there has been MANY silly remarks and even an invitation to dance in the kitchen...something I usually scoff at (silly, I KNOW!)...but I danced with him...and had a blast!  Even the kids got a lesson on the 2 step!

It never ceases to amaze me how simply laughing at my husband instead of blowing him off changes SO much.  I still have to remind myself that I need work...and MAKE EFFORT to laugh and not roll my eyes, but I am doing better. I have tasted the fruits and they are sweet conversation, much more laughter, fewer eye rolls and a general peace in our home.

God is faithful!  When we follow the guidelines in His Word, He is faithful to bring Joy, restoration, peace, strength, guidance...and so much more!

So...more on Proverbs 31 coming soon...Keep on keepin' on!

 

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Having the Trust of Your Husband

I love Proverbs 31 because it spells out what a woman, wife and mother should look like.  I know that there are many other scriptures that speak about women throughout the Bible, and they too, are powerful; however, I am going to delve into the Proverbs 31 woman.  It will take several posts, and I'm sure tears and joy as I, too, am walking out what the Lord is speaking to my heart.  I pray that I will be a blessing to those of you who read and that you will be encouraged and challenged  as well. Let's get started...

The Wife

Have you ever encountered a couple, friend or acquaintance, that you just knew if the wife would shut up, maybe her husband would be better off?  You know...the one who is nagging or taking small jabs at her husband's expense. Joking about his character flaws or abilities...even as she pretends it is all in jest. Have you been that wife? Do you know if you are that wife?

I, myself have been guilty of this to some extent. I have, in the past, poked fun of my sweet hubby and seen the reaction on his face telling me I went to far and hurt his Spirit, feelings, pride...etc.  You don't have to be in a public place or even with other people for your words to do damage. Words can hurt even in the confines of your home.

"Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. The heart of her husband does safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life." (Pro 31:10-12)

Scripture paints a picture of what we are to be as wives. Genesis tells us that we are to be helpmates to our husbands.  1Timothy 3:11 says "...wives likewise must be dignified (honorable),not slanderers..." Our tongue should be used to edify and lift up our husbands...even when we don't think they DESERVE to be praised and lifted up. Our husbands will not EVER be the men of God they need to be when we are out of line.  Scripture says that it is better for a man to live alone in the corner of a house than to live with a quarrelsome, brawling or angry wife (Proverbs 21:9, 19; 25:24).  As married women, we need to be a safe refuge for our husbands.  He should be able to bear his heart, faults, inadequacies, joys and triumphs with us without  fear of being made fun of later, having his words thrown back at him, or being laughed at or ridiculed.

Our words can break the people we love.  This scripture warns us of the consequences of loosing our husband's trust...He will have NEED of SPOIL....Hmmm, what does that mean?  Maybe the sweet secretary that gives him the time of day, the neighbor that makes his favorite pie because she remembered his birthday, the grocery store cashier that laughs at his jokes...may innocently promote a feeling of resentment toward his wife, set his mind to wandering....or even worse, can lead to infidelity (whether emotional or physical)! Becoming a Wife that reflects Biblical principles is not always easy, nor is it always what our flesh WANTS to do, but it is what God has laid out in scriptures for us to model our lives by. It is a CHOICE you can make...It is YOUR responsibility to the Word of God to follow after it...It is NOT contingent on your husbands behaviors.  I will bring peace to you and your home, a Godly heritage for your children...and even help other marriages you touch along the way.

Intentional living

Intentional Step to take:

Start by praying and asking the Lord to make you aware of the words that are not edifying...that are tearing down your marriage. Then, when you hear the words come out, stop and change them & apologize.  If you can...don't even say what you are thinking!  CONTROL your TONGUE!  It has the power of Life and death in it, so CHOOSE life!  Speak encouragement.  Let it be genuine, heart felt.  It doesn't have to be deep, just positive...start little if you have to.  Compliment his dress, hair, cooking, cleaning, joke telling (laugh at him)... this will begin to form a new habit and help change you pattern of thinking. Your children will even notice and begin to change the way they regard their father as well.  As for your husband...after a while, he will begin to trust again...maybe even have a spark in his eye again.

My Wifely Pursuits!

I am in this boat with you.  I am not perfect BY ANY MEANS...this week my goal is to laugh at my hubby's jokes more and to compliment his positive qualities to him and to others when he is around.

I would love to hear any positive results you begin to see from following God's model!

May you walk in Love and Mercy this week,

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